Many people live with the constant belief that everyone around them is watching and judging them. This is often the reason for lower self-esteem and living in anxiety. But does everyone really do that?
Comparing ourselves to others is probably one of the most common limitations we face. Some people are afraid to wear non-standard clothing, speak their mind, or change jobs for fear of being judged by family, friends, or coworkers. Here’s how to stop worrying about what others think of you and be true to yourself.
From a psychological point of view, comparing yourself is a common phenomenon, and its main purpose is to protect yourself. The mechanism allows you to quickly find yourself in a new situation and find an appropriate response. The problem arises when, hiding behind the fear of being judged, we stop pursuing our passions and dreams. When comparing becomes one of the main points of life, low self-esteem and fear of rejection may also appear
On the other hand, comparing ourselves to others has a motivating effect on some people. By seeing the differences between oneself and people who are moving in a similar direction, one can expand one’s horizons and aim higher. Then we want to take the challenge and match better, and the satisfaction of achieving the goal is doubled. Unfortunately, usually instead of following our own path, we look at others and belittle our own merits and achievements. The prevailing feeling is one of despondency and frustration, which is quite difficult to break free from on its own.
There are ways to break this vicious cycle. Although we can’t escape from judging others, we can try to steer our thinking in such a way that it doesn’t have a negative impact on our self-esteem or stop us from making plans. Here are some useful tips that everyone should know:
Instead of focusing on others, try to take a deeper look at yourself. It is worth asking yourself and thinking about what constant comparing really brings us. Does it bring anything but bad emotions? Does it build anything in us? If not, maybe it is worth stopping? By giving up comparing, you will gain time and space to develop your strengths.
While we realize that it’s difficult to function these days without participating in social media, it’s a good idea to take a break from it on a regular basis or constantly monitor the time you spend with your phone. Perfectly styled photos posted on popular platforms can be very far from reality.
Although there is a growing awareness of the creations and appearances of such images, most people still compare and blame themselves. We envy a dream vacation, a beautiful new home, an inspiring job, and a partner or mate, although all of these things can also have a second face. Detoxing from social media will help you focus on yourself and your real life
Think about what your talents and skills are. Dig deep inside yourself and recall the times when you succeeded in something, when you felt proud and important. You may also find it helpful to have friends who can help you notice qualities that you may not notice every day. A must is to write them all down on a piece of paper! Hang it up somewhere visible and look at it every day. When you are aware of your strengths, comparing yourself to others should not make you feel inferior
Each of us is different and unique. It’s not surprising that we are different from each other – that’s okay! Try to appreciate your individuality, remember that you have different predispositions. Learn from others and draw on their talents. In this way, you can be a better version of yourself.
It is very difficult to stop comparing yourself, but there are ways to turn it into something positive. We hope that as you build confidence and self-confidence, you will pursue your own goals by following your own path
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