The right mindset can work real miracles and this is confirmed by experts in various fields, including doctors. So how to change your approach to life?
Everyone dreams of happiness. To achieve it, undoubtedly, most of them need to change their way of thinking. But how to do it?
Remember: you can do everything, or almost everything
Instead of constantly saying I can’t do something, start saying “I’ll try”. You can’t paint, but you’d like to? Then what’s the problem? After all, you don’t have to be a world-class painter. Just see if you actually enjoy painting. If it does, then do it! Look for yourself and experience new things, so that later you won’t regret not having tested so many things.
Analyze your anger
Ask yourself “why” more often. For example, ask yourself why you are angry with a colleague at work, why you are angry with another driver, why you have a grudge against someone. And analyze your “why” very carefully. Perhaps it will turn out that in fact there is no reason to be angry and nervous – and probably in many cases it will be so. Perhaps when you begin to analyze your “why,” you will also find that in many situations you are at fault.
Perhaps you get angry at a busy parking space because you don’t have enough time to get things done. And why do you have little time? Because you are mismanaging it. This analysis can really help you work on yourself. Plus, you’ll gain peace of mind and a better sense of well-being.
Listen to others’ opinions, but have your own
Copying other people’s thoughts and conforming to them is not a good solution. Neither is saying anything to spite others. It’s good to be curious, to listen, to analyze, to consider, but at the same time to be able to agree – or disagree! – but at the same time be able to agree or disagree with someone else’s opinion. You should start changing your way of thinking by opening yourself up to others.
You don’t have to be perfect, because there are no ideals
Modern people strive for ideals. They work and undertake various activities beyond their strengths, and often “because it is the right thing to do”. Psychologists agree that operating on so-called autopilot contributes to our destruction. It is worth slowing down, give yourself more time to see what is going on around you. This is a great opportunity to gain new experiences. And the “what ifs” are often worth giving up, for your own happiness.
Replace “but” with “how”
“I want to lose weight, but I don’t have the self-denial”, “I want to change my car, but I don’t have the money” – these are some of the hundreds of thousands of uses of the word “but” as an excuse. Instead, it is worth considering the “how” to achieve your dream goal: “I want to lose weight, how to do it?”. And we have already started to change our way of thinking and strive to realize our dreams!
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